is it a gender thing

I’m convinced from years of family life (being a brother, raising kids, relationships) that men and women are different in many ways. The Venus vs. Mars thing manifest itself in many situations. However, don’t confuse that idea with an idea that all men or all women are much alike either. It’s takes all kinds to make the world go around (I think that’s the saying).

I like to picture it as knobs on the control panel of our behavior and attitude. Each of us has different settings. Some make adjustments more often than others.  It seems the emotion control is more sensitive in women (the knob is constantly being tuned).

I don’t know if there are studies to support my next observation but Lisleman Labs would kindly accept your money to conduct a study. I’ve detected that women tend to communicate better and more often than men. My time in blogland tells me more women write blogs than men.  Women are more active on FB than men. They are just more sociable.

Blogging presents a conflict of wanting to share but also at the same time not wanting expose your life to the whole world. I post memories and family stories infrequently. You are not going to find much “soap opera” stuff here.

Since blogging typically takes a little more effort in composing a good post compared to the short remarks thrown out up on Facebook, a blog post  provides a more complete picture.  More time on the thinking phase with blogs.

So is the desire to share personal feelings and situations stronger in women than men?

Back in 1983 (before blogs - duh) I had one hell of an emotional roller coaster. Actually it was more thrown-from-a-speeding-train than roller coaster. Too many changes over a short time. Divorce, career change, relocation, and becoming a single parent happened in under 9 months. Thank God I had family support.

This blog sharing idea brought this memory back. I’m sure if blogging had been around back then my feelings and situation would have been posted. I don’t think it would have helped but we’ll never know. 

The reason I’m sure my personal stuff would have been posted is because what happened to me in Kansas City that year. Back in 83, US Sprint flew me out to Kansas City for an interview. Now the fact that they paid to fly me out and put me up in a nice hotel tells me they were reasonably interested in hiring me. Oh did I blow that day of interviewing. 

For whatever reason (needed someone to talk to?) I shared way too much information about my recent divorce situation. I have to wonder now, if they thought I was even mentally stable. Months later a different career path appeared and I was off and running stumbling in different direction. Maybe our emotional eruptions have little to do with gender. 

What do you think?