Tuesday, June 11, 2013

father thoughts

Father's Day really does change when you become an adult orphan. Not as big a change as becoming a father yourself. Each year it feels a little different. No gift to buy just thoughts of past times, good and bad.

The passing of years since they left becomes very evident when I need to do a bit of arithmetic to recall the number of years (my calculations, dad passed 28 yrs ago, mom passed 23 yrs ago.)

More reason to appreciate having sisters and a brother to share growing-up memories. We each bring a different perspective to memory recollection.

a fish catching smile

The Mother and Father Days are all about relationships. One of my favorite relationship songs is "Landslide". I heard Stevie Nicks once tell the audience that her father thought she had written it for him. I found Stevie's words about the song at this site: 

"The story of Landslide... everybody seems to think that I wrote this song about them. Everybody in my family, all my friends, everybody... and my Dad, my Dad did have something to do with it, but he absolutely thinks that he was the whole complete reason it was ever written...."



longhollow said...

I'm grateful I can still go see my dad and celebrate Father's Day with him. I know it will be a tough day for my husband, though, since we lost his dad this past year. Landslide is one of my favorite songs. Now that I'm on the other side of fifty, to me it's the voice of Midlife!

Cheryl P. said...

I really like that song. I liked the Dixie Chick version as well. (typically I am not into country)

I agree that there is a difference how a person looks at Mother and Father's Day as an orphan adult. I only have one sibling and we tend to remember things very differently...not necessarily good or bad views...just different.

As for Father's Day, celebrating the current (alive) fathers. There is nothing more admirable than a man that was a good father to his children. I think that is the most awesome thing that a man can do in his life.

lisleman said...

It's an awesome thing but certainly not simple to do. Handling rebellious confrontation with my children was one thing I wasn't ready for when those teen years came.

Did you notice the "this is for you Daddy" at the start of the song?

lisleman said...

Interesting how we can understand new meanings in a song after we get to midlife. Those first event/holiday days without your parent are very tough. I hope your husband can reflect on the happy memories his dad provided. thanks

Reena Walkling said...

It has always been one of my favorite songs also ... glad you added the video. I had not seen it before.

lisleman said...

thanks Good to know you liked it.

Secret Agent Woman said...

This is one of my all-time favorite songs. It catches something so true about aging. I never, ever get tired of hearing it.

lisleman said...

I agree. It has truth and emotion mixed together well.

Pat Fortunato said...

You find new meansing in EVERYTHING as you get (you should pardon the expression) older. Try watching a movie you loved back then, like The Graduate or 8 1/2 and see how it changed.

Happy Father's Day, Bill


lisleman said...

good point. The older brain has more connections to compare these things with perhaps. thanks

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