Me - You remember (fill-in favorite family name) how we helped you get through college and now you have a professional career?
Adult Kid - Ah, yeah, where you going with this?
Me - Well I thought you could help us with retirement. Maybe pay our living expenses at a nice retirement community. You might even help us move.
Adult Kid - Oh sorry, I gotta go there’s another call coming in.
The above conversation is pure fiction, maybe fantasy, but could you imagine having it?
Today post idea came to me after reading a related question over at Mrs. 4444 (after having college kids her number might be reduced). Check out her post after you finish here.
How about answering this question.
When are adults responsible for other adults?Of course, there are exceptions involving disabilities but I’m not asking about that. I am interested in the normal full functioning adult person with normal capabilities and family relations.
We also need to agree on the age a person becomes an adult. Many of us know 30 something guys who rarely act as an adult (men vs. women maturity - not a fair question?).
But here in the US, a eighteen year old can be trained to kill for our country. If war is necessary (please I don’t want to go off on that tangent right now) then we probably agree that we want adults fighting. For the question posed above lets bump the age up to 21.
I've noticed a shift in our culture over my adult life. It's expected that things change they always do and will forever change. Right now, there's some unwritten rule that parents need to cover college expenses that didn't exist when I was college age. Maybe my parents just fooled me?
Some thoughts of mine:
- College is not for everyone.
- Colleges don't give refunds.
- The money involved in these decisions is a serious amount of money.
- Degrees are granted to all ages.
- The best investment you can make is in yourself and your future.
- Learning doesn't always happen in the classroom.
- The period to earn a degree can stretch over many years.
- People do better when they have "skin in the game".
- Some of the most serious students are ones that became unemployed.